For the past couple of months, I have had the immense privilege of hosting Healwell’s online webinar series, The Interdisciplinary Clan of Mystery. This past Sunday was Episode 2, featuring Janet Booth, my new best friend and amazing, thoughtful human. We spent an hour talking about end of life care, and what it takes for practitioners to serve clients at the end of life. By the end it was clear — we needed at least two more hours.
Talk is amazing. And talk is cheap. I found myself wondering this morning about the practitioners who watched the webinar, and whether anything practical was happening. We talked a lot about doing the inner work necessary to serve other humans. Across the video conference lines, there was a sea of nodding, agreement, engagement and awareness. Now, in our separate states, are we doing that inner work, or are we playing Candy Crush on our phones and ignoring our own uneasiness?
Since Sunday evening, I have been noticing all the ways I avoid or numb out. Let me tell you, there are a lot of them. It’s not always things that are clearly unhealthy. Sometimes it’s exercise. Or a book.
I had a new client a while back, coming for a massage after several months of not receiving massage. Healthy, right? Good self care? Yet — I wonder. During the intake I learned this new client had just received some very difficult health information. Just received, as in about a half hour before the massage appointment. The client made it clear that the entire massage was a time to forget this looming diagnosis.
It is not my place to tell someone how to handle their own bad news. It is my place to serve without judgement and to create a place of safety. But that client stayed on my mind for a long time. I wonder if there is a place where that person can acknowledge what they feel in a place of safety and comfort.
Is there a place to be comfortable with our own discomfort.
I am working on creating that place and carrying it around me wherever I go.